Who's the Better Listener, Your Husband or the Dog?

Published April 27, 2010
People cope with problems by talking things out . . . but to their pets? A new AP-Petside.com poll asked pet owners to reveal who's included in their most intimate discussions, and the results are sure to get people talking. One out of 3 married women (33%) say their pets are better listeners than their husbands. Diane Demaske, a Petside Facebook fan, says her pets "can read my emotions better than my husband." Overall, 25% of pet owners feel their pet is a better listener than their spouse, and the battle between cats and dogs continues - dog owners are more likely to declare their dog as the better listener than cat owners (25 % vs. 14%). About 1 in 10 pet owners (8%) claim they often talk about their personal problems to their pets. Women (10%), single men (9%), and people earning under $50K (12%) are most likely to do the talking. Only 5% of men, 4% of married men, and 5% of those earning more than $50K tell their problems to their pets. But Petside Facebook users tend to disagree. We asked "Do you talk to your pet about your life? Do you think they understand you?" and our Wall flooded with responses. "I talk to my pets about everything," said Jacque Truelove-Desimone. "I know they understand. They know my moods, and when I'm not feeling well, they love to curl up next to me and help me feel better." Judith Graham Breslin agreed. "One of them just sits and listens," says Breslin. "The other one will grunt and slap his paws around...my pets know when I am happy, sad, sick, etc." Donna Malley-Burke's service dog "understands almost everything," while Vivien F. Ariola's dog "knows when I am going somewhere without him by the way I dress...especially the types of shoes." But what if a pet seems down? Who can they talk to? Few in our poll have taken their pet to a vet or pet psychologist (5%) or given their pet an anti-depressant (4%), but almost 20% would be at least somewhat likely to take a pet to a vet or psychologist if it showed symptoms of depression. Women were nearly twice as likely as men to say they would bring their pet to a professional (23% vs. 13%). And many more people under age 30 would do so compared to those over 65 (30% vs. 12%). Interestingly, dog owners (23%) were more likely than cat owners (11%) to consider visiting a vet or psychologist about their pet's mood. Hopefully, many pet owners don't have to make this decision, since 85% of owners say their pet displays mood swings infrequently. Do you talk to your pets (more than your spouse or friends)? What do you think of pet psychologists? Join the conversation by dropping us a comment below.
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Comments (17)

Sherwin Chen (Unverified)

Oh I sincerely believe our pets can and do understand our moods and health. Equally, if we are good pet owners, we too will understand the dogs health and respond accordingly. Does this mean husband, or partner is replaced, not likely!

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Sophia

Cathy I think you're wrong my pet ferrets would often listen to me talk. They can comprehend more than we give them credit for. And even if they can't it's the fact that they care enough to listen that matters, atleast to me.

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Ash (Unverified)
Before we had our dog, I would talk to my cat. Whenever I would feel sad, he would nudge me in the face, paw at my back, and sit beside me just looking at me as if he just knows! Now when I feel sad, our dog (bichon/poodle mix) makes me smile because she is always smiling and happy!! I will start playing fetch w/ her to help get me energized again. I can talk to my animals easier than my husband!
Erin
I talk to my cat(s). I use to have a black and white one named Bootz but I had to give her away cuz my apartment doesn't let us have animals :( not to worry, she has a great home with other cats and lots of room to roam. They do understand your moods. When I was sad or upset, Bootz would come and lay with me and follow me around. When I got pregnant, she would sleep next to my belly almost like she was protecting it. After I lost it, she would mope with me and lay in my bed for a few days only leaving to eat and to go restroom. Animals do know. I have another cat named Verde, she lives with my dad. My dad said she'd sleep on the counter next to mine and my sisters pictures and meow for us. She's quite happy now that me and my bf live there. She's one of the fat, content, useless house cats but I'd be devastated if I lost her
Cathy (Unverified)
Don't you pet kooks realize that the animal is too stupid to judge you? Too stupid to talk? Too stupid to listen with comprehension? You're reading so much into mindless animal instincts. Animals can't love. It's only pack instinct! They grovel for your FOOD.
Tim
This is a great article. Sadly, it works for both genders. My wife can't seperate the love I have for her and my dogs. She thinks I love them more than her. Toward that end, she makes no effort in our relationship. Is it any wonder why I would find more comfort in them than her ?
Heather GK (Unverified)
My dogs DO listen better than my husband of 10 yeras, who gets "tired" of hearing ,me talk about work or my feelings. My husband talks alot when he complains and acts very little. He gets tired of hearing other people'sproblems but loves talking about his own. My dogs however are a captive audience (no un intended). They listen and vocally sympathize. Both are rescues.