Fostering a Pet: The Joys and Sorrows

Published February 9, 2010

While I was online the other day, I received a very happy and excited instant message from a dear friend who recently lost "Doc", her beloved old dog at fifteen years-of-age. She had shared her heart and home with him from the time he was a young dog, and always took incredible care of him.

Over the past few years, as Doc's health declined, her attachment to him grew even stronger, and his devotion to her deepened as well. So when she knew that it was time to send him to the Rainbow Bridge, to end his suffering, in that final act of love that we can offer our beloved pets, she knew it was best for him, but a huge hole remained in her heart which she ached to fill.

While she knew that it was not yet the right time for her to bring a new forever pet into her home, since she is still grieving Doc's loss, miraculously and unexpectedly, she was offered the opportunity to foster a needy dog. It is definitely a win-win situation for both my friend and a homeless hound.

Her news got me to thinking about how fostering pets can provide us with the pleasure of the company of a needy animal, while at the same time affording the pet a chance to spend some time in a loving home, with someone who cares about them until a forever home opens to them. But are there any down-sides to fostering an animal?

What concerns me the most is how attached I get to any animal that enters my home and heart. At one time, in fact, I was giving some serious consideration about putting my name on a waiting-list to take a puppy who would eventually be trained as a Guide Dog for the Blind, but I was very concerned about how I would feel when that time eventually arrived when I would have to let this dog go; the one with whom I had been so connected with for over a year, and who had shared so many amazing and memorable times with me. Was my temperament suited to such difficult separations?

Personally, I don't think it is in my makeup to be able to part with such a puppy. So I decided not to apply. But I really do admire the folks that have the right disposition to be able to do so.

On the other hand, for some people fostering may be the perfect solution for them. While they do get attached, knowing deep-down in their hearts that a wonderful forever loving home is the main goal, since fosters are not permanently placed in their homes, they are able to offer many more needy animals the opportunity to find that perfect permanent placement.

Have you ever fostered a pet? Did you have difficulty surrendering them when a permanent home was found? Please share your experiences by leaving a comment.

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Jo Singer

Shortly after retiring as a social worker and psychotherapist, I discovered my "writer's voice"…

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Comments (6)

Amy
I am proud to say my daughter foster dogs through her vet. When they have a dog that is brought in and is in danger of being put down because of lack of room, or because mainly it is a pit bull/pit bull mix she takes them into her home and rehabilitates them. She has fostered two of these dogs and they eventually went to wonderful loving homes. She also has the pleasure of dog sitting them in her home when families go in vacation, this way she is in contact with them often.
Linda H (Unverified)
I sometimes foster cats and/or birds but early on in my "fostering career" they usually ended up getting the same last name as mine. Now with a truly full house I can let them go more easily although I continue to think about them. It makes me proud that I have been a stepping stone in helping them find wonderful forever homes.
fourhorsegal
I don't think that fostering is the right thing for me. I just get too attached and can't let them go. Any animal that has ever been born on my farm, stays here. I have so much admiration for those that can. I have a yearling that was fostered, and I do keep in touch with her as I know how I would feel if I ever had to let one go. Just not for me.
Iniki (Unverified)
The hardest part of fostering for me is to say goodbye when they are placed in a forever home. I do get Christmas card from some of the furry friends I have helped place. I think that is the hardest part. I do admit though that getting in an abused animal about breaks my heart for almost always that poor abused animal will be willing to purr and trust no matter what they have been through. Is it worth the sadness. You beat it is.
jmuhj (Unverified)
A dear friend fosters cats and kittens, and she's a hero to me. I always say I could never do what she does, as I would never want to let any of them go; but to be a waystation for those cats and kittens awaiting forever, loving homes takes a very special kind of person.
Ruth Hagenbaugh (Unverified)
I foster greyhounds all the time. At first I thought I would never be able to give them up, but it's not as hard as I thought. I did flunk fostering twice though. But when you know they're going to a good home with a lot of love, it's worth it. I love to foster. It's very rewarding. When you foster a dog or cat, you are saving a life and when you let that dog or cat go to a forever home, you are making room for another foster and saving another life.